Loves of a Sex Geek

Sex-Positive Counselor

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promoting body positivity for larger girls:


doing so by throwing skinny girls under the bus, calling thinner girls “fake”, or insisting that being bigger is “what men really want” (implying that any female body type is only good if it has male approval):


This is why I’m torn about “All about the bass”

(via lacigreen)

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Anonymous asked: But if trans women identify as women, why aren't we, as feminists, trying to liberate them?



The part where they turn our realities into identities is where the problems begin. I’ll try to make it simple.

  •  Analyzing how women (females) as a class are oppressed is important to know the steps to take to liberate them from the system that oppresses them.
  •  Men (males) are the oppressor class.
  • Gender is a harmful oppressive construct that causes the subordination women and doesn’t make men’s lives extremely amazing either, but they still have privilege over women.
  • Male privilege is not erased when a male is uncomfortable with his gender. 
  • Majority, if not all women are uncomfortable with their gender and the roles that come with it, specifically because we are at the bottom of the hierarchy. Experiences like sexual harassment on a daily basis, the imposition of femininity, the imposition of a docile, submissive, obedient (basically subservient) attitude are (usually) not experiences males have. 
  • These lived experiences and a wide variety of others are because of our biological realities. We did not choose them, and we cannot just opt out of our reality whenever we wish.
  •  Turning the word ‘woman’ into a ‘label’ that can be put on either of the sexes completely dismisses the lived experiences of every woman. Childbirth, mensuration, corrective rape*, these are our experiences. They are unique to women and the “feeling of oppression” cannot be felt by anyone. Especially not males who have had male privilege for most of their lives. 
  • Trans women see women (and their lives and experiences) only through the male gaze. It is a superficial view and they cannot ever understand the truth to being a woman. It is a lie to say they face the same reality women face.
  • Accepting them as women is detrimental to feminism.
  • Women who want to get away from men and have safe spaces are dismissed and ignored for their inclusion. Lesbians are dismissed for their inclusion.
  • That is because they carry the entitlement from being raised as males. They feel they are entitled to women’s spaces even if the discussions do not pertain to them at all.
  • Transsexualism is another way capitalism profits off of the patriarchal system. Feminine men or masculine women are urged to transition in order to ‘fit’ in a specific gender, paying thousands in the process.
  • Males will be liberated to some extent when gender is abolished, but feminism’s focus is women who suffer the most under the patriarchy, for the man’s benefit.

(*Corrective rape happens to both sexes.)

Wow what the fuck did I just read? This is some of the most horrible trans misogynistic drivel I have ever heard. As a cisfemale you could never understand the struggles of a trans woman. However they are WOMEN therefore their experiences and the things that happen to them in the world are WOMEN’S experiences. Based on your logic I, as a transman and someone who is MALE; could relate and benefit more because there was one point in my life where I could mensturate and give birth to a child? As a man I have not had women’s experiences. Undervaluing the experiences of trans women and the struggles they face with misogyny, sexual harassment, and whatever the fuck else is just as damaging to women’s rights and feminism as any other sort of misogyny. Take your hate and get the fuck out.