Hey all. I’ve been tweeting updates but I thought putting it all here might be easier. Although you may have noticed some quieting, this problem has not been solved and we’re still working on it. Here’s what I’m personally working on:
im a bad person who thinks bad thoughts like ‘ew what is that girl wearing’ and then remember that im supposed to be positive about all things and then think ‘no she can wear what she wants, fuck what other people say damn girl u look fabulous’ and im just a teeny bit hypocritical tbh
I was always taught by my mother, That the first thought that goes through your mind is what you have been conditioned to think. What you think next defines who you are.
Sexualities/Genders (And Other Terms One Should Know)
Heterosexual:Male-identifying individual sexually attracted to a female-identifying individual, and vice-versa.
Homosexual:Someone attracted to someone of the same gender as themselves.
Bisexual:Sexually attracted to two or more genders.
Polysexual:Sexually attracted to many genders, but not all.
Pansexual:Sexually attracted to all genders. (this and bisexual, and sometimes polysexual, are often considered to be the same thing and different people may simply identify as any one of them due to their own personal reasons)
Demisexual:Sexually attracted to people only after forming a bond with them first.
Asexual:Having no /sexual attraction/ to others; having no desire to have sex.
Heteroromantic:Male-identifying individual romantically attracted to female-identifying individuals, and vice-versa.
Homoromantic:Attracted romantically to the same gender.
Biromantic:Attracted romantically to two or more genders
Polyromantic:Attracted to many genders (but not all)
Panromantic:Attracted romantically to all genders
Demiromantic:Romantically attracted to people only after forming a bond with them first.
Aromantic:Having no /romantic attraction/ to others; having no desire to be in a romantic relationship.
Polyamorous:Someone who is attracted to, and is comfortable with being in a relationship with more than one person at a time.
Transexual/Transgender (Term depending on generation and location):An individual who identifies as a gender other than the one they were assigned at birth to be. Often shortened to trans
Cisgender:Someone who identifies as the gender that they were assigned as at birth. (ex. matches their birth certificate) Often shortened to cis
Intersex:Someone who has ambiguous genitalia that doesn't fit into our strict dichotomy of uterus or testes. Often forced into surgery to correct their genitals at a very young age, causing psychological and physical harm later in life
Nonbinary:Outside of the gender binary of male and female. (Can be used as an umbrella term or as its own identity)
Genderqueer:Outside of the gender binary. (**This is not an umbrella term like the post said before I edited it! Do not use this as an umbrella term for nonbinary individuals, simply use 'nonbinary'. Queer is considered a slur and not everyone likes to be associated with the word)
Agender:Someone who feels gender neutral, or someone who experiences a 'lack' of gender.
Bigender:Someone who identifies as two separate genders.
Trigender:Someone who identifies as three separate genders.
Genderfluid:A gender that changes, or is 'fluid'.
Demigirl:Identifying partially as a woman, but not wholly.
Demiboy/guy:Identifying partially as a man, but not wholly.
Dmab:Designated Male at Birth.
Dfab:Designated Female at Birth.
Amab/Afab:Same as dmab/dmab, except with 'assigned' instead of 'designted'.
Camab/Cafab:Same as previous, except prefixed by 'coercively', to highlight the lack of choice.
Reblog to inform! And if there's any I missed or anything that should be clarified, please message me! Always looking to expand the proper vocab. :)
**I edited this post because it used some archaic and incorrect terms/definitions, and needed more terms added to it. -Vivian Mareepe
"In case you haven’t noticed, humans are a social species. The vast majority of us need other people to keep us feeling.. whole. Loneliness hurts, even when we’re entirely healthy. When we’re not- when we’re ill, or our lives are more difficult- then loneliness can eat you up.
And when we’re ill- especially if that illness comes from inside our brains- and vulnerable, then sometimes we’re unable to simply use our words and ask for the help and company we need. I was lucky two years ago- I had both the self-awareness and the experience of using my words, as well as friends who I knew would respond well to that. It turns out, though, that mental illness doesn’t wait around for you to learn how to describe what you need before it gets to you. Jerkbrains aren’t polite. They show up when they damn well please, break into your house and shit all over your nice sofa before you’ve even had a chance to make your morning coffee.
Sometimes people who are sick- or people who are vulnerable or traumatised or even just plain lonely- do fucked-up, self-destructive things. Sometimes those things are a cry for help or for attention.
I figure, if someone’s sick or lonely or vulnerable or traumatised enough to be willing to harm themselves (or risk killing themselves) for the possibility of some help or attention? We might want to do something other than mock them for that. Maybe we should start paying attention.”
“When I look back on my time in therapy, I wonder if I could’ve done a better job of making it work for me. Maybe I should’ve offered up specific changes that I wanted to see to the therapists, such as “I want to stop crying several times a week” or “I need to learn to be okay with being single.” (Both of these things happened without the help of a therapist, by the way.) But…I didn’t really know that I needed to do that. I saw my therapists as authority figures. I assumed they knew what they were doing, and that they would ask me for specific things if they needed to. I had only the vaguest ideas of how therapy is “supposed” to work, because my psychology classes mainly focused on theories and not on practice.
If you find yourself doing nothing but venting about your problems in therapy–without necessarily then developing any sort of plan to help resolve or cope with the problems–that’s a red flag. Venting can be therapeutic in its own right, but you shouldn’t have to pay for the opportunity to do it. Therapists have a responsibility to provide the best treatment they can; it’s literally in our code of ethics. You deserve that from your therapist.”—Venting About Your Problems Is Therapy’s Failure Mode (via humantrampoline85)
In theory, domestic homicide should be easy to prevent, since men who kill their wives or girlfriends (85 percent of victims are female) generally give us lots of warning by beating, stalking, and even raping their victims, usually for years before they finally kill. In reality, it’s surprisingly hard to…
"I, maybe more than most people, can completely understand why broke white folks get pissed when the word "privilege" is thrown around. As a child I was constantly discriminated against because of my poverty, and those wounds still run very deep. But luckily my college education introduced me to a…
doing so by throwing skinny girls under the bus, calling thinner girls “fake”, or insisting that being bigger is “what men really want” (implying that any female body type is only good if it has male approval):