“Telling every woman to get a gun is not rape prevention. The reality is that we need to be changing how we train and teach young men. We need to teach them to see women as human beings and respect their bodily autonomy. We need to teach them about consent and to hold themselves accountable.”—
She received rape threats for telling men not to rape women, as a survivor herself. If that isn’t indicative of how badly we need to fix our rape culture and end victim blaming, then I don’t know what is.
I don’t have an obligation to be healthy, actually, and I don’t have an obligation to rush to assure you that I’m a ‘good fatty’ with great cholesterol and good scores on other health indicators allegedly related to weight. I don’t have an obligation to tell you that fat isn’t correlated with health because I shouldn’t have to justify the existence of fat people by informing you that you don’t understand how fat bodies work, and you’re not familiar with the latest studies on fatness, morbidity and mortality, health indicators, and social trends.
Because fat people have a right to exist, healthy or unhealthy, and this whole argument about health is a red herring. It suggests that if only fat people could prove that fat and health aren’t coupled, they’d be okay. Society is just concerned for us—worried that we’ll be felled too soon, taking our glorious minds into the ground with us to rot, all because we were fat and we refused to take personal responsibility for our fatness.
Here’s the thing, though: fat people have a right to exist, no matter what their health status is, and their health status is both not your business and not evidence to be used when determining whether they should be found wanting. Fatness is just a characteristic, one with which many people have a complex relationship because it’s socially loaded. Your judgement about fat has not been requested, nor is it required.
I talked recently about why I identify as “queer rather than lesbian,” inspiring one of my readers to ask this question: Is it wrong or cissexist to identify as a lesbian if you’re dating a trans* person?…
A very detailed discussion of cissexism, transphobia, identities, and labels. Worth a read, particularly if you’re in the LGBT spectrum.
Every year on November 20th people around the globe take a moment to remember the unfortunate souls who have passed due to transphobia. Advocate.com handily put together a list of the people who have died this year alone:
You don’t need to bash skinny people to say that bigger people are beautiful. You don’t need to bash men to promote women’s rights. You don’t need to bash white people to promote racial equality. You don’t need to bash a certain genre of music to promote another. You don’t need to bash straight people to promote gay rights. You don’t need to bash anyone to advocate your opinion.
it’d be so much more wonderful if instead of focusing on all these bullshit mono vs poly arguments we instead talked about the importance of communication, respect, and generosity, and the vast multiplicities of what “good” and “healthy” relationship(s) can look like/function like depending on the various persons in these relationships!
its about how you date people, not how many people you date!!!
“In discussions about anal sex for women, I’ve often heard folks say that the reason that gay men like it and women don’t is because men have prostates. But when we surveyed men for our book, we found that that simply isn’t true. Anal sensations are distinctly different from prostate sensations. And I’ve spoken with too many women who enjoy anal sex, either on its own or along with clitoral or vaginal stimulation, to buy the notion that women don’t like it. Of course, plenty of folks don’t enjoy it, just as plenty of people don’t enjoy certain kinds of food. But let’s let go of the clearly false claim that enjoying anal sex has anything to do with whether someone has a prostate or not. It’s just not true.”—Get F*cked |Charlie Glickman (via sexisnottheenemy)
The gay population of San Francisco is estimated to be 15%. Studies have suggested that 17% of Portland, Oregon residents identify as Bisexual alone. Factoring in gays and lesbians we are just over a quarter queer.
Some say that our bizarre city is the nations Bisexual capital.
In the last 72 hours I’ve received more death threats, rape threats, abuse and hatred than I can count. I’m transgender, and on Sunday, Sept. 29, I found my name spreading across the gaming community for identifying the man who’d misgendered me.
This is a disheartening tale of a culture, community, that I distantly associate with, being disgusting, hate-filled, and intentionally harmful to a community I closely identify with.