im a bad person who thinks bad thoughts like ‘ew what is that girl wearing’ and then remember that im supposed to be positive about all things and then think ‘no she can wear what she wants, fuck what other people say damn girl u look fabulous’ and im just a teeny bit hypocritical tbh
I was always taught by my mother, That the first thought that goes through your mind is what you have been conditioned to think. What you think next defines who you are.
Sexualities/Genders (And Other Terms One Should Know)
Heterosexual:Male-identifying individual sexually attracted to a female-identifying individual, and vice-versa.
Homosexual:Someone attracted to someone of the same gender as themselves.
Bisexual:Sexually attracted to two or more genders.
Polysexual:Sexually attracted to many genders, but not all.
Pansexual:Sexually attracted to all genders. (this and bisexual, and sometimes polysexual, are often considered to be the same thing and different people may simply identify as any one of them due to their own personal reasons)
Demisexual:Sexually attracted to people only after forming a bond with them first.
Asexual:Having no /sexual attraction/ to others; having no desire to have sex.
Heteroromantic:Male-identifying individual romantically attracted to female-identifying individuals, and vice-versa.
Homoromantic:Attracted romantically to the same gender.
Biromantic:Attracted romantically to two or more genders
Polyromantic:Attracted to many genders (but not all)
Panromantic:Attracted romantically to all genders
Demiromantic:Romantically attracted to people only after forming a bond with them first.
Aromantic:Having no /romantic attraction/ to others; having no desire to be in a romantic relationship.
Polyamorous:Someone who is attracted to, and is comfortable with being in a relationship with more than one person at a time.
Transexual/Transgender (Term depending on generation and location):An individual who identifies as a gender other than the one they were assigned at birth to be. Often shortened to trans
Cisgender:Someone who identifies as the gender that they were assigned as at birth. (ex. matches their birth certificate) Often shortened to cis
Intersex:Someone who has ambiguous genitalia that doesn't fit into our strict dichotomy of uterus or testes. Often forced into surgery to correct their genitals at a very young age, causing psychological and physical harm later in life
Nonbinary:Outside of the gender binary of male and female. (Can be used as an umbrella term or as its own identity)
Genderqueer:Outside of the gender binary. (**This is not an umbrella term like the post said before I edited it! Do not use this as an umbrella term for nonbinary individuals, simply use 'nonbinary'. Queer is considered a slur and not everyone likes to be associated with the word)
Agender:Someone who feels gender neutral, or someone who experiences a 'lack' of gender.
Bigender:Someone who identifies as two separate genders.
Trigender:Someone who identifies as three separate genders.
Genderfluid:A gender that changes, or is 'fluid'.
Demigirl:Identifying partially as a woman, but not wholly.
Demiboy/guy:Identifying partially as a man, but not wholly.
Dmab:Designated Male at Birth.
Dfab:Designated Female at Birth.
Amab/Afab:Same as dmab/dmab, except with 'assigned' instead of 'designted'.
Camab/Cafab:Same as previous, except prefixed by 'coercively', to highlight the lack of choice.
Reblog to inform! And if there's any I missed or anything that should be clarified, please message me! Always looking to expand the proper vocab. :)
**I edited this post because it used some archaic and incorrect terms/definitions, and needed more terms added to it. -Vivian Mareepe
"In case you haven’t noticed, humans are a social species. The vast majority of us need other people to keep us feeling.. whole. Loneliness hurts, even when we’re entirely healthy. When we’re not- when we’re ill, or our lives are more difficult- then loneliness can eat you up.
And when we’re ill- especially if that illness comes from inside our brains- and vulnerable, then sometimes we’re unable to simply use our words and ask for the help and company we need. I was lucky two years ago- I had both the self-awareness and the experience of using my words, as well as friends who I knew would respond well to that. It turns out, though, that mental illness doesn’t wait around for you to learn how to describe what you need before it gets to you. Jerkbrains aren’t polite. They show up when they damn well please, break into your house and shit all over your nice sofa before you’ve even had a chance to make your morning coffee.
Sometimes people who are sick- or people who are vulnerable or traumatised or even just plain lonely- do fucked-up, self-destructive things. Sometimes those things are a cry for help or for attention.
I figure, if someone’s sick or lonely or vulnerable or traumatised enough to be willing to harm themselves (or risk killing themselves) for the possibility of some help or attention? We might want to do something other than mock them for that. Maybe we should start paying attention.”
“When I look back on my time in therapy, I wonder if I could’ve done a better job of making it work for me. Maybe I should’ve offered up specific changes that I wanted to see to the therapists, such as “I want to stop crying several times a week” or “I need to learn to be okay with being single.” (Both of these things happened without the help of a therapist, by the way.) But…I didn’t really know that I needed to do that. I saw my therapists as authority figures. I assumed they knew what they were doing, and that they would ask me for specific things if they needed to. I had only the vaguest ideas of how therapy is “supposed” to work, because my psychology classes mainly focused on theories and not on practice.
If you find yourself doing nothing but venting about your problems in therapy–without necessarily then developing any sort of plan to help resolve or cope with the problems–that’s a red flag. Venting can be therapeutic in its own right, but you shouldn’t have to pay for the opportunity to do it. Therapists have a responsibility to provide the best treatment they can; it’s literally in our code of ethics. You deserve that from your therapist.”—Venting About Your Problems Is Therapy’s Failure Mode (via humantrampoline85)
In theory, domestic homicide should be easy to prevent, since men who kill their wives or girlfriends (85 percent of victims are female) generally give us lots of warning by beating, stalking, and even raping their victims, usually for years before they finally kill. In reality, it’s surprisingly hard to…
"I, maybe more than most people, can completely understand why broke white folks get pissed when the word "privilege" is thrown around. As a child I was constantly discriminated against because of my poverty, and those wounds still run very deep. But luckily my college education introduced me to a…
doing so by throwing skinny girls under the bus, calling thinner girls “fake”, or insisting that being bigger is “what men really want” (implying that any female body type is only good if it has male approval):
But if trans women identify as women, why aren't we, as feminists, trying to liberate them?
The part where they turn our realities into identities is where the problems begin. I’ll try to make it simple.
Analyzing how women (females) as a class are oppressed is important to know the steps to take to liberate them from the system that oppresses them.
Men (males) are the oppressor class.
Gender is a harmful oppressive construct that causes the subordination women and doesn’t make men’s lives extremely amazing either, but they still have privilege over women.
Male privilege is not erased when a male is uncomfortable with his gender.
Majority, if not all women are uncomfortable with their gender and the roles that come with it, specifically because we are at the bottom of the hierarchy. Experiences like sexual harassment on a daily basis, the imposition of femininity, the imposition of a docile, submissive, obedient (basically subservient) attitude are (usually) not experiences males have.
These lived experiences and a wide variety of others are because of our biological realities. We did not choose them, and we cannot just opt out of our reality whenever we wish.
Turning the word ‘woman’ into a ‘label’ that can be put on either of the sexes completely dismisses the lived experiences of every woman. Childbirth, mensuration, corrective rape*, these are our experiences. They are unique to women and the “feeling of oppression” cannot be felt by anyone. Especially not males who have had male privilege for most of their lives.
Trans women see women (and their lives and experiences) only through the male gaze. It is a superficial view and they cannot ever understand the truth to being a woman. It is a lie to say they face the same reality women face.
Accepting them as women is detrimental to feminism.
Women who want to get away from men and have safe spaces are dismissed and ignored for their inclusion. Lesbians are dismissed for their inclusion.
That is because they carry the entitlement from being raised as males. They feel they are entitled to women’s spaces even if the discussions do not pertain to them at all.
Transsexualism is another way capitalism profits off of the patriarchal system. Feminine men or masculine women are urged to transition in order to ‘fit’ in a specific gender, paying thousands in the process.
Males will be liberated to some extent when gender is abolished, but feminism’s focus is women who suffer the most under the patriarchy, for the man’s benefit.
The fantasy is that I’m his whore, always wet, always ready, always hungry for cock. In reality, I’m just a girl with good days and bad. Bridging this gap isn’t always easy: it’s hard to say no, and hard to hear no. And not saying no when it should have been no sucks even…
Me:So, let's say that you're at school and you see a guy you know. I mean, you guys talk every once in a while and he's pretty cool, but you're not like friends or anything. You just talk to him every once in a while.
Guy Friend:What's his name?
Me:I don't know. Frank?
Me:Okay, fine. His name is Will. Okay?
Guy Friend:I don't think it really suits him, but okay.
Me:...So anyway, you're at school during lunchtime and you see Will. So, you notice Will's not eating anything. That's when you realize that Will has no lunch, no money for lunch, and no way of getting either. He's just sitting there like he normally would. He's not acting any differently and he's not asking anyone for anything. Not money, not a fry, not even a salt packet, but you know he's gotta be hungry. So, what do you do?
Guy Friend:Do I have any money?
Me:Yeah. You have enough for you and another meal.
Guy Friend:Duh, I buy him lunch.
Me:Okay, cool. So, like you said, you buy him lunch. You buy your lunch and you buy his lunch and you go over and hand it to him. And, he says, "Wow. You know, that's really nice of you, but I wasn't gonna ask anyone for lunch. I was probably just gonna wait until I got home to eat." And, then you say--
Guy Friend:Nah, it's cool.
Me:Exactly. You say, "Nah, it's cool. I'm just being nice. It's a gift." And, Will says, "You know, that's awesome. You're really nice, bro." And, after that, you guys start hanging out. You guys are like really good buds. You are always hanging out and laughing and just having a good time. So, you guys are friends for a few months, and it's tons of fun. Then, one day, you go up to Will and you say, "Hey, Will, you know, I've been thinking, and I kinda want that five bucks."
Guy Friend:What five bucks?
Me:Hold on. I'm getting there. So, Will says, "What five bucks?" To which, you reply, "Well, we've been hanging out for a long time and it's been really fun, but like, I've done a lot of really nice things for you. Like, I'm always nice to you and I always listen and do things you wanna do, so I was thinking that because I've been so nice, you should pay me back that five bucks I spent to get your lunch right before we started really hanging out."
Guy Friend:What? Why would I--
Me:I'm not done yet. So, then Will looks kinda hurt and he says, "But I thought you were just being nice. I thought that was just a gift." So, you say, "Whether or not it was a gift, don't you think you kinda owe me that five bucks since I've been so nice to you?" And, Will says, "No. I don't think I owe you that!" And you get mad, so you say, "Well, I think that you do, so I think you're being really shitty and stuck up about this and I feel like I've been completely wronged."
Guy Friend:Oh, my God. That's so fucked up of me. I would never do that to Will. Will was nice. We were buds. That's way screwed.
Me:I know, right? Hey, just wondering, have you ever heard of this fictional place called "The Friendzone?"
Sexual violence is one of the most horrific weapons of war, an instrument of terror used against women. Yet huge numbers of men are also victims. In this harrowing report, Will Storr travels to Uganda to meet traumatised survivors, and reveals how male rape is endemic in many of the world’s conflicts
Not surprised, but still horrified to hear of extensive sexual violence towards men during war. Rampant sexist stigmas mean these men face a life of rejection and isolation for the crimes committed against them.