I guess pole dancing for personal pleasure and fitness has really taken off - some women are even pushing for the activity to be considered an official sport and included in the Olympics! I wonder how such a move would change the activity. Would it change how society reacts to a woman who says “I’m a pole dancer”. Would strippers gain new respect? Or will the sensuality be scrubbed from the “sport”, basically becoming a newer version of gymnastics? What do you think?
I’ve been forging a movement to encourage a local TNG BDSM group and a local polyamory group to combine forces. Each group had set up their monthly meetups at approximately the same time, and members who were involved with both groups were being forced to choose one or the other. I wanted us to be able to see all of our community members at one time without feeling guilty about abandoning the others. Seems fair, right? The polyamory group decided through silence that we could have our monthly meetup at the same restaurant as the BDSM group to allow for those involved in both groups to easily crossover. This morning, day of the munch, the polyamory mailing list blew up with people offended by the very transparent age-limit and began throwing stones at those of us who are involved in the BDSM group.
This breaks my heart. On this day of love (Valentine’s Day) some individuals of a group founded on the sharing of love have chosen to be judgmental and pre-emptively reactionary to a rather soft restriction meant to counteract the very real exclusionary attitudes of other groups*. I’m always shocked when faced with a case of alternative group expressing dislike/anger towards another alternative group. The way I see it we should all be working together to fight the oppressive groups who want to take away our freedom to choose for ourselves. Not tearing each other apart for being different than ourselves.
As I told a fellow “cross-over” member in chat this morning: “I feel like I’m the main instigator in bringing the two groups together today and I feel like a little kid who’s trying to get her two best friends to play along and they don’t like each other.”
I just wish we could all get along… Peace and Love, my friends.
“We are overwhelmed by sexual images in commercials, art, and pornography, and you might think that the increasing number of images would indicate that we’re moving away from puritanism and towards more positive attitudes towards sex. But in reality, the great mass of those images in all three realms tell us one thing: ‘Sex feels good, but it’s not for you. You’re too fat, too skinny, too old, too poor, your tits or cock aren’t big enough, you don’t stay hard long enough. Sex is for the elite.’”—Chris Hall reviewing Vanilla Sex by Michael Rosen (via tiredofbeingignored) (via sexisnottheenemy)