“When you look for evidence of it, you’ll see that most of us have been awash in sexual judgment all our lives. Usually this has to do with calling out those who are queerer, kinkier, sluttier, or in other ways different than the norm, but it might also go the other way, as when people tell my asexual friend he should be having sex. SM aficionados sometimes refer to lovers of old-fashioned fucking as “vanilla,” and that’s often sexual judgment, too, though it is also a reaction to having been stigmatized in the first place by the “vanilla” world whose members all too often seem to think there’s only one way to have sex or express erotic feelings.”—Carol Queen (Elements of Sex-Positivity | CarnalNation) (via sexisnottheenemy)
Another great opinion article from Dr. Glickman at Good Vibrations Magazine! Our current society is fueled by sexual arousal and our shame of it. I wish more people were educated and enlightened to the power of love and respect for ourselves, our bodies, and our sexual partners. Heck, love and respect for the world at large!!! But I’m becoming increasingly more of an idealist…Point is: with knowledge (and use!) of safer sex practices and the respect for ourselves and our partners leading to regular STI checks and open, honest communication, we could chop the transmission rates by a ton!
“Better to pretend that kids don’t have sex, right? Better to leave them wandering in the dark, clueless about what sex is and how it works and how to do it safely. Maybe that’s why a new study found that 80 percent of young adults do not believe oral sex is sex. Aside from revealing a stunning lack of imagination, it also demonstrates just how heterocentric our entire notion of sex is. If sex only counts when Tab A is inserted into Slot B, does that mean all those straight-to-hell homos aren’t having sex after all?”—Daily Kos: S-E-X (via sexisnottheenemy)
“I’m not saying that people are not born gay. But this rhetoric is too limiting to be useful in the long run. As an argument, it seems to lend legitimacy to the idea that being gay is an undesirable state, like “hey, we’d be straight if we could and we have tried as hard as we can but we just can’t do it because we are biologically incapable! So that’s why you should stop being such a small-minded dick.”
Do gay people only deserve rights if they’re born gay? What if I choose to take another woman as a lover and partner when I feel I just as easily could have taken a man—does that mean I don’t? Wouldn’t it be better to unapologetically claim that we (all of us who support gay rights or are queer/bi/poly/etc.) want the freedom to make choices about our sexual life without the state telling us we forfeit our rights by those choices?”—nightmare brunette (via sexisnottheenemy)
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