Study after study show that making condoms available to students doesn’t make them more likely to have intercourse. It just makes the intercourse that students are having that much safer. A few studies have shown lower rates of sexual activity in schools that offer free condoms: one study of Philadelphia schools showed rates of sexual activity drop from 64 to 58 percent in schools with condoms versus a 3 percent increase in schools without.
That is because condoms don’t make kids have sex. Hormones make kids have sex. Peer pressure makes kids have sex. Super-sexualized television, movies, and music videos make kids have sex. The kids who want to have sex, who are coursing with hormones and are super-hot for one another and have brains that can’t yet process long-term consequences nor provide much in the way of impulse control, are going to have sex with or without condoms.
In many societies, the legal system and community attitudes add to the trauma that rape survivors experience. Women are often held responsible for violence against them, and in many places laws contain loopholes allowing perpetrators to act with impunity (via unifem.org). Learn more about how you can help fight domestic violence by visiting http://bit.ly/tPWsn
Jezebel linked to a great webcomic about transforming social norms regarding the “walk of shame”. The strip laughs the issue off with ADD-esque “oh, ice cream!” but this is a serious matter. No one should feel devalued or shameful for (possibly) enjoying pleasure, whether it be sex or ice cream. We as individuals have no right to pre-judge a person’s actions or decisions, especially based on factors as simple as time of day and his or her current dress.
Thanks to Violet Blue, the queen of sex-positive news on the internet, for linking to this fabulous resource for sex-positive parents, educators, and teens who wish to be fully educated about sexual health.
One of my favorite beauty gurus addresses the social pressure to be tan and why she has decided to defy that social pressure and stay beautifully, naturally pale. I’ve always admired Julia’s skin and hope that one day my skin will be as healthy as hers (darn acne!)
Excessive baking in the sun, tanning bed, or under chemical dyes isn’t good for our skin. It ages us prematurely, encourages cancerous growth, or leaves chemicals in our skin cells. I’m sorry, but that does not sound healthy and sexy to me. So embrace your natural skin color and love it as it deserves! Your lovers touch your skin more than anywhere else - don’t want it to be healthy, happy, and sexy for them?
“A slut is a person of any gender who has the courage to lead life according to the radical proposition that sex is nice and pleasure is good for you.”—from ‘The Ethical Slut’ by Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt (via sexisnottheenemy)