“Sexiness comes from confidence and feeling good about your body and sharing it with other people… We’re raised in a culture that has a very narrow definition of beauty and most of us, if we’re being really honest, don’t fit into it. We’re all too tall, to fat, too short, too skinny, too hairy, too brown, too something to be something the version of beauty that we would like to be. I think that consumer culture makes a lot of money off telling us that there are things that we can buy that will make us feel better about ourselves… people can get very rich very quickly off of your insecurities. Whether its the diet industry, the fashion industry, or plastic surgery, nobody should make money off of your fears and self-hate.”—You Don’t Need Labiaplasty - A good lesson for everyone concerned about conforming to cultural expectations about appearance. Learn to love yourself for who you are. Your love for yourself will resonate in you and around you, attracting people who will love you, the real you.
“Porn does a lot of things, but one of those is to offer a reflection of our sexual desires and our sexual realities. For some transmen, typical porn with cis people can leave them somewhat dysphoric or simply disconnected, because they don’t see themselves or their sex lives or fantasies reflected.
I did not know until recently how much FTM porn existed. Go to xtube and search for FTM. There are 15 pages of videos of transmen with FTM genitalia doing their thing. And most of it is amateur porn. These are real guys, some with partners some without, and these are sexual realities that we can actually relate to. It adds a lot of normalcy to FTM sex, which makes it more comfortable and less scary for everyone.”—xxboy : The importance of FTM* porn/erotica/etc. (via sexisnottheenemy)
“It’s crystal clear that the easiest way to break a website is to talk about sex. And the fastest way to reveal hypocrisy is to be a woman and talk about pornography in any way that is not fear, hatred, accusation, or anger. Social media needs a slap for not growing up. And the anti-porn people, for pulling this childish and pathetic little stunt: I’m coming for you. I have no reason to be nice anymore. This conversation about pornography and its community will happen.”—Violet Blue in The Our Porn, Ourselves and Facebook Update
“Feminists talk a lot about the privileging of penile-vaginal intercourse. We talk a lot about how the word foreplay is misleading at best and sexist at worst. We talk a lot about how most women can’t come from penetration alone, and how treating non-intercourse forms of sex as simply a preamble — not even sex at all, really — trivializes female pleasure.
What we don’t talk about as much is how this assumption trivializes male pleasure. We don’t talk about the pressure it puts on men to “perform” — pressure that, ironically, can make said “performance” more problematic. And we don’t talk as much about the ridiculous limitations it puts on male sexuality. We don’t talk as much about how enjoying full-body sensuality, nipples and ears and toes and hair and the huge range of sexual pleasures available to all human beings, is typically seen as girly. We don’t talk as much about how men who like receiving anal sex are widely assumed to be gay… even if the people they like receiving anal sex from are consistently women. And we don’t talk as much about how this assumption reduces men’s pleasure, their possibilities, their entire sexual beings, to a few inches of erectile tissue between their legs.”—5 Things Society Unfairly Expects of Men | Reproductive Justice | AlterNet (via sexisnottheenemy)