“Nonetheless, although gender-neutral pronouns may be imperfect and are still developing, they may be the best resource for treating gender-neutral persons with respect. Reverting to “it”–as many people have done–makes Storm an object rather than a subject. Although we don’t know which gender Storm will want to identify with–or if Storm will identify with a gender at all–we know that this child is a human being who deserves to be treated with respect and decency, starting with our language.”—
“If you really want to get to know someone, you don’t ask what’s between their legs,” says Stocker.
When Storm was born, the couple sent an email to friends and family: “We’ve decided not to share Storm’s sex for now — a tribute to freedom and choice in place of limitation, a stand up to what the world could become in Storm’s lifetime (a more progressive place? …).”
“Girls get a lot of mixed messages—they are told, ‘Girl Power!’ and what does that mean? It means you wear a T-shirt that says, ‘Girl Power!’ but you call each other bitches. You make fun of a girl for being a virgin and you make fun of a girl for having sex. There’s no right place to be.”—Tina Fey (via sexisnottheenemy)
“Even sticking to the higher plane of love, is it so very obvious that you can’t love more than one person? We seem to manage it with parental love (parents are reproached if they don’t at least pretend to love all their children equally), love of books, of food, of wine (love of Chateau Margaux does not preclude love of a fine Hock, and we don’t feel unfaithful to the red when we dally with the white), love of composers, poets, holiday beaches, friends … why is erotic love the one exception that everybody instantly acknowledges without even thinking about it? Why can a woman not love two men at the same time, in their different ways? And why should the two – or their wives — begrudge her this?”—Richard Dawkins (via thehumorlessfeminist)
“For the record my “ambition” is not “to be both sexes at once.” I AM both sexes at once. My ambition is to articulate who I am clearly and effectively. I am not a woman and I am not a man, I am not a “cross-dresser”. I am a transperson. To me that seems pretty clear. To question or belabor it is completely unnecessary and transphobic.”—Mx. Justin Vivian Bond in v’s blog post Notes on The Story of V (via xxboy)
“In my experience and that of people I talk to — and in the vast majority of porn — it seems commonly accepted that sexual activity ends with a man’s orgasm, whereas women are commonly expected to continue engaging in sex after having an orgasm … despite the fact that many women seem just as tired and less-interested in sex post-orgasm as many men are. In part, this goes back to defining sex in terms of reproduction: men have to orgasm in order for reproduction to happen, so men’s orgasms must (supposedly) be central to sex. It’s all influenced by these other constructions, like how penis-in-vagina sex is “real” sex, or “home base”: many people are confused by the idea that you’d shift sexual gears to (for example) manual stimulation if you’ve already “made it to home base”. But it also arises from centering stereotypical men’s desires — from a culture that just generally sees them as more important, more driving, and more necessary than women’s.”—Clarisse Thorn (Towards my personal Sex-Positive Feminist 101)
“If we understand “slut” to mean “someone (usually a woman) who dresses sexy, acts sexual, and/or has a lot of sex,” there’s absolutely no harm done. “Slut” only became an insult because our culture is completely screwed up about sex, so instead of dealing with it head-on, we assigned it such a tremendous emotional load that instead of saying “Slut is bad because X,” we could just say “SLUT!” and have people feel bad from that alone, no logical rationale required. Having sex without freely given consent, sex that involves dishonesty or manipulation, sex that spreads diseases or causes unwanted pregnancies—these are bad things. But none of them is inherent to being a “slut.” A slut who does their slutting safely, honestly, and consensually is enjoying and sharing pleasure and joy.”—The Pervocracy: Answering Slutwalk FAQs. (via sexisnottheenemy)