Last night, Sunday August 28th, Lady Gaga opened the MTV VMAs with a stunning performance as her Drag King persona, Jo Calderone. She has appeared in photo shoots and now a music video as Jo Calderone, but apparently no one expected her to do a live performance as Jo. The best part of it all? She NEVER broke character. As Violet Blue says: “there was never a minute when Jo ripped off the wig and peeled off the t-shirt to reveal a lacy pink bra, thereby reassuring the heteronormative standard-bearers of commercial music that everything was okay because look she’s still a girl.” Lady Gaga shocked and changed the world last night, and that’s why I love her.
“There is no sex position or sex act which is inherently dominant, submissive, or neutral. None. The characterization of every single sex act depends on context, a context which comes from a person’s history and the relationship between them and their partner. This is where a number of feminists and BDSM enthusiasts have gone wrong, positioning some things (being the penetrative partner, receiving oral sex) as always dominant, and their complement as always submissive.”—Wait, how can the missionary position be forceful? | No, Seriously, What About Teh Menz? (via sexisnottheenemy)
If you are a woman, if you’re a person of colour, if you are gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, if you are a person of size, if you are a person of intelligence, if you are a person of integrity, then you are considered a minority in this world….
When you don’t have self-esteem you will hesitate before you do anything in your life … You will hesitate to defend yourself when you are discriminated against because of your race, your sexuality, your size, your gender. You will hesitate to vote, you will hesitate to dream.
For us to have self-esteem is truly an act of revolution and our revolution is long overdue.
“And yet in modern American culture, sex is practically the only sin there is. When’s the last time a Christian kid got thrown out of the house because they coveted others’ possessions or they made fun of a homeless person? When’s the last time a Christian lawmaker made hyperbolic, slightly-unhinged-sounding promises to a church group to fight the sin of avarice? When’s the last time churches protested a movie because it depicted violence?”—The Pervocracy: When did “sin” become synonymous with sex? (via sexisnottheenemy)
“New research… published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology shows that when great pleasure is expected, women are just as likely as men to say “YES” to casual sex… [The] Pleasure Theory… argues that sexual reproduction is a bi-product of sexual pleasure, rather than vice-versa. We’ve evolved to seek pleasurable experiences; if enough people are having pleasure through sex, then the species will reproduce as a consequence.
Women are more similar to men in how they respond to an offer for casual sex than previously has been thought. The greatest contribution to explaining if a woman will accept an offer for casual sex is her perception of how sexually pleasurable the encounter will be. Because men orgasm more easily, they tend to be less picky about whom the casual sex is with. For women however, the sexual prowess of the person offering the sex is highly relevant. If she doesn’t expect to be satisfied, she’d be less likely to have casual sex.”—When are women into casual sex? by Bjarne Holmes, Ph.D. in Love by the Numbers