Loves of a Sex Geek

sexualhealthcounselling: This is brilliant. This short movie...

Tue, 30 Apr 2013 12:41:51 -0400

This is brilliant.

This short movie is an excellent depiction of what the world would look like if heterophobia was really an issue. Switching homophobia on its head, to give people a real insight into what its like for many same sex attracted kids today.

Thanks to Adelaide Sexology for passing this on.

heyepiphora: That’s right; you could win a Fun Factory Stronic Eins pulsating thrusting vibrator...

Tue, 30 Apr 2013 11:54:11 -0400

heyepiphora:

That’s right; you could win a Fun Factory Stronic Eins pulsating thrusting vibrator on my bloggity blog. You do want a free $200 sex toy, don’t you?

kinkypixie: sirawesomeia: sadisticgames: Someone recently...

Fri, 05 Apr 2013 00:29:20 -0400

kinkypixie:

sirawesomeia:

sadisticgames:

Someone recently sent Me an ask that I chose not to respond to because of the way it was worded.

I may have misinterpreted it, or at least I hope I did. My response would have been quite scathing.

The person seemed to be confused, and wanted advice on how to find “real subs” who don’t have “no-no’s”.

Now, I took this as his saying that “real subs” don’t have limits.

I cannot stress enough how incredibly stupid that line of thinking it.

My personal thinking is that any sub who says they have “no limits” is either too new to know any better, lying, or needs serious psychological evaluation.

Everyone is different, even subs, and it’s simply a matter of finding one who’s limits compliment your own.

To say someone who has a limits that does not match your own isn’t a “real sub” completely invalidates you as any kind of dominant.

This is My opinion.

And mine as well.

And mine!

and mine!

daddy-cum: sirstompsalot: Fat Man - my custom chain mail...

Fri, 05 Apr 2013 00:23:45 -0400

daddy-cum:

sirstompsalot:

Fat Man - my custom chain mail flogger. Weighs about six pounds. Good for fear.

oh yes. oh yes oh yes oh yes.

WANT!

I do this to puppies all the time!

Fri, 05 Apr 2013 00:15:59 -0400

I do this to puppies all the time!

naktivated: nudiarist: Taking a splash as a nudist |...

Fri, 05 Apr 2013 00:08:46 -0400

naktivated:

nudiarist:

Taking a splash as a nudist | UniversityPost http://universitypost.dk/article/taking-splash-nudist#.UT8fLYtFubg.twitter

”The place is full of people of all shapes and sizes. Next to me stands a small, perfectly round, couple. A wrinkly bum walks by. Large and small breasts, large and small penises, thighs and stomachs. I try to keep my wandering eyes at eye level, but I don’t really succeed. I have never seen so many naked people, and in a moment, I will join the ranks of the naked.”

Dive right in.

This weekend I’m heading to a local nudist resort for a lovely day poolside and I am looking forward to being free under the sun from society’s constricting clothes once more.

Photo

Thu, 04 Apr 2013 23:58:51 -0400

Kinseyan Thoughts: I'd like to clear up a bullshit myth that tumblr porn blogs tend to perpetuate

Mon, 01 Apr 2013 22:46:57 -0400

Kinseyan Thoughts: I'd like to clear up a bullshit myth that tumblr porn blogs tend to perpetuate:

subbieblackgrl:

All black men do not have large penises.

I know it’s hard to believe, but it’s true. *insert sarcasm*

My ex-husband is a black man. He had one of the smallest I’ve ever seen. (Don’t laugh, guys…love conquers all, lol!)

Many of my friends who only date black men can tell…

misterjonathangrey: This is true. Right, dear?

Wed, 20 Mar 2013 00:11:08 -0400

misterjonathangrey:

This is true. Right, dear?

lets-talk-about-umm: haughtyspirit: There are times for...

Tue, 19 Mar 2013 23:57:27 -0400

lets-talk-about-umm:

haughtyspirit:

There are times for silence and times to stand up and be heard. If you feel strongly about someone or something, speak up!!

That would be problem #1 wouldn’t it?!!

Photo

Tue, 12 Mar 2013 12:18:33 -0400

Truth!

Tue, 12 Mar 2013 11:00:54 -0400

Truth!

misterjonathangrey: richardcummings: Excellent.

Tue, 12 Mar 2013 10:47:13 -0400

misterjonathangrey:

richardcummings:

Excellent.

kinseyan-thoughts: So remember guys you can never be emotional,...

Thu, 14 Feb 2013 10:22:44 -0500

kinseyan-thoughts:

So remember guys you can never be emotional, ill, in doubt, need comforting, wrong, or in anyway human.

For every woman out there that is screaming for gender equality there is a whole society full of females who are crying out for the opposite.

Do you want humans who will treat you as equals or do you want some stereotype.

Equals!

Then again, the man I need will love the man inside me and be courageous enough to defy society’s expectations based on his genitalia and gender presentation.

"We hear all the time that “men are visual creatures” and “women are emotional” and “women are..."

Wed, 13 Feb 2013 23:37:28 -0500

“We hear all the time that “men are visual creatures” and “women are emotional” and “women are attracted to personalities” and “it’s science” and blah blah blah, but I feel comfortable in saying that this is just essentialist garbage that obscures the fact that almost all human beings (who aren’t blind, that is) are visual creatures, regardless of our gender or our sexuality. Most of us like to look at people we find sexually appealing! It’s how we roll, and as long as we don’t treat each other badly because of it, there’s nothing wrong with that. What I do have a problem with is this belief that there is no such thing as the female gaze. It contributes to that god-awful “men are from Mars, women are from Venus” nonsense that acts like men and women are two alien species with virtually nothing in common, when the reality is that men and women have way more in common than not. Many women like to look at sexy people, and many men like their partners to be decent, interesting people. It’s not either/or, yet we keep acting like it is.

Mind you, this is not an argument for creating a culture in which everyone is objectified, which is how I feel things are going. I die a little inside when I hear about rising rates of guys with eating disorders or getting more plastic surgery or taking steroids in their pursuit of bigorexic ideals. Rather, what I want is a culture that accepts that people find a wider variety of bodies to be attractive and sexually appealing than just the ones that belong to a very tiny subset of young sylphlike women. I would also like to live in a culture that does not equate sexuality with dehumanization and objectification, but instead regards it as a very life-affirming aspect of being human, but I suppose that is a lot to ask for a culture that still has aneurysms whenever a woman dares breast-feed in public.”

- No room for the female gaze in Sports Illustrated’s Swimsuit Issue « Fit and Feminist (via sexisnottheenemy)

PSA: People with vaginas can have queer sex with people with penises.

Sun, 27 Jan 2013 21:01:20 -0500

lets-talk-about-umm: zodiacsociety: How To Care For Your...

Thu, 24 Jan 2013 00:44:53 -0500

lets-talk-about-umm:

zodiacsociety:

How To Care For Your Scorpio:

That about covers it, so where is he?

Pretty accurate.

kinseyan-thoughts: tdevil: Can I just say something? I prefer...

Tue, 22 Jan 2013 12:21:33 -0500

kinseyan-thoughts:

tdevil:

Can I just say something? I prefer fat girls, and all that, and it’s fine, cool, whatever. You know what though? Skinny people don’t give a shit that I prefer fat girls. They don’t care, at least not enough to say anything to my face about it (of course I probably scare the shit out of ‘em too). You know who I do get a lot of shit from? You know who doesn’t approve of my preference?

The size acceptance community.

That’s right. The very community I ought to feel comfortable in, makes me feel ashamed and uncomfortable. Because I run a porn blog and I objectify women (sarcasm). If that isn’t the dumbest bunch of shit I’ve ever heard in my life. I like looking at fat girls, who are naked, and in various states off arousal. Apparently this makes me a bad person. Because I like looking at naked fat girls, I’m some kind of pervert to be despised and shamed of. And when I vent and talk about how I feel, I’m treated like an even bigger piece of shit. I’ve actually lost followers over this (to them: HAVE A NICE LIFE!)

I’m beginning to find that people outside of this little “bubble” we have created for ourselves to keep us safe isn’t as accommodating that we all like to think it is. It’s bullshit to the highest degree and if you believe that all is fair in size acceptance, I’ve got some news for you.

It doesn’t matter if it’s a fetish or a preference because people are going to believe what they want to believe. There’s nothing that can be expressed to sway them one way or the other. Once that’s it, that’s fucking it. So in that respect, there are really two schools of thought in the size acceptance community that I’ve seen, The Nudes and The Prudes.

I’ve spent most of my adult life (25 years, give or take) around the adult industry end of the movement. I’ve seen BBW go from an obscure search term to a keyword in porn. I’ve dealt with a lot of people, Some cool, some not. Some of the biggest assholes have been right here on tumblr.

I no longer look at acceptance as a community thing. It is an individual thing that starts with yourself. Are you proud of yourself or not? Can you stand what you see in the mirror, or are you ashamed by it? Nobody can tell you that, you have to see it for yourself and find the answers within you.

The problem then becomes one of projection. Everybody has their own idea of what self acceptance looks like. Everybody thinks they know who the good people and the bad people are. Everybody thinks they know how those people ought to be dealt with. Everybody is full of shit. There is too much projection of insecurities in the size “acceptance” community, and I’m sick of it.

I’m sick of people proclaiming how proud of their bodies they are, or how they love fat people so much. Don’t proclaim it, prove it. You’re gonna talk about how you love fat people? Talk to them, tell them that you hope they have a nice day. Don’t talk shit on the fucking internet, nobody cares.

And if you’re gonna post pictures of your naked ass on the internet, be ready for people to snatch it up and do VERY unpleasant things with it. Insulting shit that will make masturbating to it look like a fucking compliment. You could BE so lucky to end up on my blog, or a blog like mine. At least I (and we) care. At least we appreciate. Go ahead, look for yourself. You already know, there are some real bastards out there. So if you’re gonna post tits, Appreciate the people that appreciate you because there are other people ready to make a meme out of them.

I don’t believe in size acceptance anymore. I believe in “SELF ACCEPTANCE”. It is neither a preference or a fetish. It just is…. or is not. You either do it or you don’t do it. You don’t have to proclaim it, you don’t have to keep it to yourself. Some people will accept you, some people will not accept you. At the end of the day, YOU have to be comfortable with YOURSELF. If you surround yourself with a “community”, that are just as full of shit as the world they rage against, then what have you really accomplished? Me? I’m tired of wearing the mask.

I dig fat chicks, You can either:

Like it

Not like it

Or hidden option C: Not give a shit.

I’m not asking anyone to be my friend, I’m just putting it out there that maybe Size Acceptance isn’t all that its cracked up to be, and that maybe it just doesn’t matter if you have a preference or a fetish because you have already been judged.

I can dig what the man is saying.

universe-regeneration: whimmy-bam: sirileigh: prllnce: meggch...

Tue, 22 Jan 2013 02:15:23 -0500

universe-regeneration:

whimmy-bam:

sirileigh:

prllnce:

meggchan:

Mine is mostly cognitive.

I have all three. Well oops.

Dammit! So do I!

No one has said this yet, so I feel I must.

THANK YOU FOR THIS.

So many people don’t seem to understand that social anxiety can manifest itself in multiple ways. Some people will just dismiss that you have social anxiety if you don’t fit into what they perceive it to be, and that lack of understanding can be really hurtful. So thank you for this.

(And as my personal comment, I fit into behavioural and cognitive.)

Mines both cognitive and behavioural

Hehe pain slut and I have been trading as of late. I should hand...

Tue, 22 Jan 2013 01:26:36 -0500

Hehe pain slut and I have been trading as of late. I should hand him a card like this the next time I take the top.