Posts tagged culture
Posts tagged culture
I spent this past weekend at an event called Atlanta Poly Weekend (APW) where a bunch of polyamorous people came together to live, love, learn, and have fun. I go to at least 2 conventions a year in my town and consistently I come away having learned a little something (or a lotta something) about myself and my passion in life (doing therapy around relationships and sex). This year’s APW was a particularly exceptional experience.
Each year at APW I’ve livetweeted panels that I’ve attended because I wish I could be in 2 or 3 places at one time and I know there’s other people at APW and the greater community who feel the same. So I like to carry the wisdom and experiences shared within those conference room walls to the world at large so we can all learn. Last year from those of us who livetweeted panels and communicated about the event, #APW2013 was a top ten trending hashtag in the Atlanta area that weekend. I don’t know if we were trending this year, but I know more of us were tweeting this year, and the content is particularly juicy. I’d like to share with my Tumblr followers some of the really juicy bits. So here’s my favorite tweets from APW2014:
From @franklinveaux’s presentation on how to make your relationships suck:
From Sarah Olivia’s keynote Bringing Sexy Back:
From Sterling Bates’ class on How personality type affects relationships:
From MsNoel and NCMaster’s class on Bridging the Gap between generations:
From @Joreth’s 5 Love Languages derived for poly people presentation:
From Sterling Bates’ and @Joreth’s class on Breaking Up in Polyamory:
From @wfenza’s discussion on Relationship Anarchy:
From @Franklinveaux and @everickert’s discussion on Ethics in Relationships:
From Dr. Kieran’s Cinderella and the Glass Therapist presentation:
From Elisabeth Sheff’s Unicorn Hunting session:
From @Franklinveaux’s Closing Keynote about Creating Ethical Communities:
Franklin Veaux’s powerful closing remark:
After the con:
We need to confront the virulent sexism and violence our culture is steeped in—and the institutions and social relations that generate them.
A long, heavy, but extremely important article. I hope everyone takes the time to read, comprehend, absorb, and truly grok what is happening in our world, and what must change.
I find it comical when women think I care about
If one titty is slightly bigger than the other
Bumps or discoloration
and now I’m crying. Some days I feel this. This pressure. This concept that I am not enough. I’m not good enough, not pretty enough, not worthy of the attention.
It’s fucking hard to even begin to like being in your body much less loving it. I am thankful everyday that I have found people in my life that help me see more of the good and less of the bad. People that help me see that the parts I don’t like are things that they cherish.
Even with these people it is still hard. Even with these people there are days that I don’t see good. I just see what’s wrong. I just see the fat and the rolls and all the things that make up what my body has always been.
I have never been skinny or even small. I have never had clear smooth skin. I’ve rarely felt pretty or admired by people who do not know me.
If someone told me they thought it was funny that I had these self conscious thoughts, I would put my clothes right back on and walk out the door.
It’s not funny. It’s heartbreaking.
This is why I run Diversexity.
Everyone deserves to see themselves in pictures of beauty. Everyone deserves to see different depictions of beauty. Maybe just maybe someone sees a picture I post and thinks “Someone out there sees this as beauty. This thing that I don’t like about myself is beautiful to someone, and maybe with practice and thought I can see that part as beautiful too.”
That’s what it took for me. It took someone else to recognize a piece of me that I hated and call it cherished.
Men, we have a crucial role to play in this. We benefit from male privilege every moment of every day. We may not ask for it, but it’s there. So let’s use it to confront rape-supportive behavior, rape jokes and rape culture whenever we can. Let’s listen when we’re told we’ve done something that inadvertently supports rape culture, rather than getting defensive. Let’s learn from feminist women who speak and write about sexual violence and rape culture. Let’s support our local rape crisis center and state sexual assault coalition. Let’s be “aspiring allies” to feminist women, as together we work to create a world free from sexual violence.
Ben Atherton-Zeman for Ms. Magazine
LEGO is just one of many companies participating in aggressively gendered marketing that encourages children to conform to very narrow social expectations according to gender.
For more information, links and a full transcripts visit http://www.FeministFrequency.com
Uhhhh because women need men’s validation in order to feel acceptable? Oh okay.
Not only an awesome all-around video on slut-shaming and it’s impact on rape culture, but I’m so impressed by this teen’s passion and knowledge! And most importantly: courage to stand up to adults and fellow teens about a topic she is passionate about, and in the minority.