Posts tagged freedom
Posts tagged freedom
Laci Green hit it out of the park again with “The F-Word”
I’m a feminist and I’m proud about it!
But for transgender and gender non-conforming people like myself, the question of what to wear to work becomes an exhausting question of identity and of survival. For us, the question changes from “how do I present my best self at work?” to “can I present my best self at work?”
Thankfully, I’m lucky enough that I can present my best self at work. But many many others aren’t so blessed.
I spent this past weekend at an event called Atlanta Poly Weekend (APW) where a bunch of polyamorous people came together to live, love, learn, and have fun. I go to at least 2 conventions a year in my town and consistently I come away having learned a little something (or a lotta something) about myself and my passion in life (doing therapy around relationships and sex). This year’s APW was a particularly exceptional experience.
Each year at APW I’ve livetweeted panels that I’ve attended because I wish I could be in 2 or 3 places at one time and I know there’s other people at APW and the greater community who feel the same. So I like to carry the wisdom and experiences shared within those conference room walls to the world at large so we can all learn. Last year from those of us who livetweeted panels and communicated about the event, #APW2013 was a top ten trending hashtag in the Atlanta area that weekend. I don’t know if we were trending this year, but I know more of us were tweeting this year, and the content is particularly juicy. I’d like to share with my Tumblr followers some of the really juicy bits. So here’s my favorite tweets from APW2014:
From @franklinveaux’s presentation on how to make your relationships suck:
From Sarah Olivia’s keynote Bringing Sexy Back:
From Sterling Bates’ class on How personality type affects relationships:
From MsNoel and NCMaster’s class on Bridging the Gap between generations:
From @Joreth’s 5 Love Languages derived for poly people presentation:
From Sterling Bates’ and @Joreth’s class on Breaking Up in Polyamory:
From @wfenza’s discussion on Relationship Anarchy:
From @Franklinveaux and @everickert’s discussion on Ethics in Relationships:
From Dr. Kieran’s Cinderella and the Glass Therapist presentation:
From Elisabeth Sheff’s Unicorn Hunting session:
From @Franklinveaux’s Closing Keynote about Creating Ethical Communities:
Franklin Veaux’s powerful closing remark:
After the con:
Taking a splash as a nudist | UniversityPost http://universitypost.dk/article/taking-splash-nudist#.UT8fLYtFubg.twitter
”The place is full of people of all shapes and sizes. Next to me stands a small, perfectly round, couple. A wrinkly bum walks by. Large and small breasts, large and small penises, thighs and stomachs. I try to keep my wandering eyes at eye level, but I don’t really succeed. I have never seen so many naked people, and in a moment, I will join the ranks of the naked.”
Dive right in.
This weekend I’m heading to a local nudist resort for a lovely day poolside and I am looking forward to being free under the sun from society’s constricting clothes once more.
A little off-topic for this blog, but I have a point to make.
It’s your body. You can dress how you like, pierce it as you like, tattoo it, modify it in any way you see fit. Nobody has the right to give you crap about what you do to it. Shave your head if that’s what you want. Don’t shave your armpits, or your legs, if that will make you happy.
You chose who gets to explore your body with you. Have sex if you want it, with who you want it with (if they want it too, of course.) Ignore anyone who tells you otherwise.
And of course, if you don’t want sex, that’s cool too. Your body is yours. Do with it what you will.
Sex is sex. It’s natural. The choice is entirely yours.
You are not a slut/whore because you choose to engage in sex/sexual activity. You are not a prude or a frigid bitch or unmanly if you don’t. It’s your body therefore it’s your decision. If it’s consensual and nothing illegal is taking place, it is not your business to judge others.
You can be body-positive and still have preferences.
You can be a feminist and still love men.
You can be sex-positive without being interested in casual sex.
People seem to forget that the core principle of all of these is as simple as not being an asshole.
Listen up, ladies:
If you want to have a lot of sex, do it.
If you want a lot of partners, go for it.
If you want to be polyamorous, do it.
If you want to have sex with men, yes.
If you want to have sex with women, yes.
If you want to have sex with anyone in between, yes.
If you don’t want to have sex, don’t have sex.
If you want sex in the butt, do it.
If you want to have oral sex, do it.
If you want to be with one person, go for it.
If you want to slut-shame others, DON’T.
I just looked up her latest video and I’m sad to say that I’m horribly disappointed. I’d been watching more of Jenna’s work lately and was enjoying her quirky nature. Now I will be avoiding watching her videos because I won’t financially support someone with such a judgmental attitude when she’s grossly uninformed about STDs.
What I commented on the video:
Herpes is NOT caused by casual sex. It does not decide to transmit to certain ppl. You can catch herpes from a monogamous partner who was either untested, or received a (very common) false negative test result. You can even catch herpes without engaging in sex! Educate yourself Jenna.