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Body mapping on the brain shows that we experience sensation in the genitals and on the feet in very similar areas in the brain. This is especially neat to me because I really enjoy someone mimicking fellatio on my feet - I “transmute” the sensation to where my penis would be and can easily experience amazing pleasure and even orgasm from the experience. It really helps with my gender dysphoria sometimes. Also, it clearly shows that we experience sensation on the clitoris and in the vagina in very different areas of the brain - orgasms from one stimulation is not the same as the other. Thanks neuroscience!

Body mapping on the brain shows that we experience sensation in the genitals and on the feet in very similar areas in the brain. This is especially neat to me because I really enjoy someone mimicking fellatio on my feet - I “transmute” the sensation to where my penis would be and can easily experience amazing pleasure and even orgasm from the experience. It really helps with my gender dysphoria sometimes. Also, it clearly shows that we experience sensation on the clitoris and in the vagina in very different areas of the brain - orgasms from one stimulation is not the same as the other. Thanks neuroscience!

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10-minute+ orgasms now have a name: Extended Sexual Response

I’ve always been capable of (and thoroughly enjoy) 10+ minute orgasms. I’ve known that it’s fairly rare for most people, but apparently there’s now medical recognition and description of this phenomenon and it’s called the Extended Sexual Response. Researchers have even figured out a 4-spot-method that helps woman attain this learned ability. Neat!

Main link is to a news article, this link is to the study itself

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What really kills me about all this orgasm agony is something I learned only after I’d figured out how to come: orgasms aren’t my favorite part of sex. Who knows … maybe someday I’ll do some serious tantra, and experience one of those five-hour orgasms they’re always on about, and get my mind blown. But right now, all I know is that when I finally started being able to have orgasms regularly, my feeling was basically: oh … is that it? I realized that I’d already had sexual experiences that were way more mind-blowing than an orgasm — and that they came from just following what felt good; from exploring my boundaries; from reveling in the connection to my partner, rather than focusing on mechanics and goals.
Clarisse Thorn ([postsecret] The Despair of Missing Orgasm)

(via sexisnottheenemy)

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Americans are creating massive public outcries in favor of birth control. Translation: Americans are creating massive public outcries in favor of sex for pleasure, sex for reasons other than procreation, sex for sex’s own sake. Americans are willing to stand up and acknowledge that they have sex because it feels good — and they are creating massive public outcries when people try to interfere with that, or try to shame them about it. I don’t think that would have been the case twenty years ago. Maybe not even ten years ago. But now, today, in 2012, Americans are willing, and proud, and passionately eager, to say out loud, ‘I use birth control. I have sex for pleasure. I don’t want to have children right now, I may never want to have children — and I still plan to have sex. And that is a good thing.’
Greta Christina (Birth Control, and Why I’m Proud of Americans Right Now)

(via sexisnottheenemy)

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We have this entire culture that’s telling people that there’s One Right Thing To Want. Dudes, for instance, are supposed to have a high sex drive, to like porn, to enjoy casual sex, to be attracted to thin young feminine large-breasted women, to want anal sex and public sex and rough sex, to not want pegging and ageplay and vanilla missionary with the lights out. If you’re asexual you’re broken; if you like drag you’re a pervert and probably a pedophile; if you’re a male submissive you’re pathetic and unmasculine; if you’re queer you’re destroying America. I don’t understand why people do this: what possible gain could there be from reducing the vibrant rainbow of human sexuality to two colors (the dude color and the girl color)? Those two colors look much nicer as part of the whole spectrum.
On Good Consent, Part One | No, Seriously, What About Teh Menz? (via sexisnottheenemy)

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Science finds the truth about the clitoris

Modern science has discovered that the clitoris is far more complex and influential than previously thought. It has also proven how biased and discriminatory science and research has been over the years. One of the best places to counter continued sexism in our society is in medicine and scientific research. Kudos to French researchers Dr. Odile Buisson and Dr. Pierre Folds for making the step towards scientific knowledge and greater pleasure for women across the planet.

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New research… published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology shows that when great pleasure is expected, women are just as likely as men to say “YES” to casual sex… [The] Pleasure Theory… argues that sexual reproduction is a bi-product of sexual pleasure, rather than vice-versa. We’ve evolved to seek pleasurable experiences; if enough people are having pleasure through sex, then the species will reproduce as a consequence.

Women are more similar to men in how they respond to an offer for casual sex than previously has been thought. The greatest contribution to explaining if a woman will accept an offer for casual sex is her perception of how sexually pleasurable the encounter will be. Because men orgasm more easily, they tend to be less picky about whom the casual sex is with. For women however, the sexual prowess of the person offering the sex is highly relevant. If she doesn’t expect to be satisfied, she’d be less likely to have casual sex.
When are women into casual sex? by Bjarne Holmes, Ph.D. in Love by the Numbers

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