Posts tagged relationships
Posts tagged relationships
We’re defined by who we choose to be in this very moment.
We’ll never be “figured out.” Over the course of our lives, we’ll constantly be transforming into a more and more authentic version of ourselves.
Yes Yes Yes!
Polyamorous people still face plenty of stigmas, but some studies suggest they handle certain relationship challenges better than monogamous people do.
I love the language of “What is the path of my heart in this moment.”
I think this is a beautiful way of describing my preferences for relationships. Just add in a little more genderqueerness, because in sex I’m far more like a gay man than a feminine woman.
This is Ken for me.
Reading this now. My therapist recommended it & it is a very helpful, quick read. It helps with those of us who have issues with parental guilt & manipulation. It’s purpose is to help you regain your self worth & develop new ways to interact.
One of the best books I’ve ever read. It literally changed my life.
Anyone who thinks they may have been abused in any way by a parent or caregiver should read this book.
I wish there were a way to download this book. I want it, but I don’t want my parents to find it. :/
Passing this along for people who need it!
Passing along to tinybearfriend and anybody else who might find this helpful.
I spent this past weekend at an event called Atlanta Poly Weekend (APW) where a bunch of polyamorous people came together to live, love, learn, and have fun. I go to at least 2 conventions a year in my town and consistently I come away having learned a little something (or a lotta something) about myself and my passion in life (doing therapy around relationships and sex). This year’s APW was a particularly exceptional experience.
Each year at APW I’ve livetweeted panels that I’ve attended because I wish I could be in 2 or 3 places at one time and I know there’s other people at APW and the greater community who feel the same. So I like to carry the wisdom and experiences shared within those conference room walls to the world at large so we can all learn. Last year from those of us who livetweeted panels and communicated about the event, #APW2013 was a top ten trending hashtag in the Atlanta area that weekend. I don’t know if we were trending this year, but I know more of us were tweeting this year, and the content is particularly juicy. I’d like to share with my Tumblr followers some of the really juicy bits. So here’s my favorite tweets from APW2014:
From @franklinveaux’s presentation on how to make your relationships suck:
From Sarah Olivia’s keynote Bringing Sexy Back:
From Sterling Bates’ class on How personality type affects relationships:
From MsNoel and NCMaster’s class on Bridging the Gap between generations:
From @Joreth’s 5 Love Languages derived for poly people presentation:
From Sterling Bates’ and @Joreth’s class on Breaking Up in Polyamory:
From @wfenza’s discussion on Relationship Anarchy:
From @Franklinveaux and @everickert’s discussion on Ethics in Relationships:
From Dr. Kieran’s Cinderella and the Glass Therapist presentation:
From Elisabeth Sheff’s Unicorn Hunting session:
From @Franklinveaux’s Closing Keynote about Creating Ethical Communities:
Franklin Veaux’s powerful closing remark:
After the con:
I hate relying on my boyfriend. When I do, it makes me feel helpless, as if all the independence I racked up living on my own in New York City for 16 years fled out the window the minute I moved in with him.
I know that’s not literally true. I do plenty of things for myself, and if I expected him to wait on me hand and foot, we’d both get sick of the arrangement — fast. But, emotionally, it feels like a slippery slope.
This is why I will probably always live on my own, loving in a “solo polyamory” sort of life. I am fiercely independent by nature. My first sentence as a child was, “Me do it!” and that temperament persists today, 30 years later.
Recently a poly friend observed, “There are no secondary people. Be careful how you treat everyone in relationships.” …Fine, but how do you actually pull that off? Where’s the list of what to do?…
Important, and this issue has come up recently in my personal life.
AggieSez is one of the awesome new(ish) bloggers on the polyamory scene over at Solopoly.net, quite possibly my favorite blog at the moment. She’s working on writing a book with Lily Loyd about nonstandard relationships: “relationships that are somehow off society’s standard relationship escalator norm: strictly monogamous, lifelong cohabitating partners (married or equivalent, perhaps with kids) or relationships that are clearly progressing toward that goal.” She put together a survey seeking first-person experiences and data for the book. She’s had a great response so far but needs more data from people who aren’t part of a primary couple. So if you’re poly and aren’t primary partners with someone else, please consider adding your voice to her (anonymous) survey!