Posts tagged sex positive
Posts tagged sex positive
Sex is sex. It’s natural. The choice is entirely yours.
You are not a slut/whore because you choose to engage in sex/sexual activity. You are not a prude or a frigid bitch or unmanly if you don’t. It’s your body therefore it’s your decision. If it’s consensual and nothing illegal is taking place, it is not your business to judge others.
there is nothing wrong with talking about sex
there is nothing wrong with wanting sex
there is nothing wrong with feeling almost desperate for sex
there is nothing wrong with talking about your sex life in an appropriate setting
there is nothing wrong with being sexually open
or liking sex
or loving sex
or having a lot of sexual partners
there’s nothing wrong with being sex positive if you do it for you
now go, be free, fuck~
“Sex acts are degrading when they make you feel degraded — and nobody gets to decide that but you, not even feminism.” YES THANK YOU.
Trailer for Public Sex, Private Lives - As Violet Blue said: “Thank goodness that we live in the era that porn performers, dominatrixes and sex workers can now finally *actually* describe the work they do and what it means for them in their own words (as opposed to the past where others speak – often incorrectly – for these women). No more.”
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Violet Blue recently asked her readers “What does sex-positive mean to you?” At the time, I wasn’t sure how to answer, so I didn’t. Tonight, while completing the required reading for my graduate level abnormal psychology class I read a couple phrases that cemented my personal definition of what it means to be sex-positive.
“Socially transmitted negative attitudes about sex may interact with a person’s relationship difficulties and predispositions to develop performance anxiety and, ultimately, lead to sexual dysfunction… Unlike other disorders discussed in this book, one surprisingly simple treatment is effective for a large number of individuals who experience sexual dysfunction: education. Ignorance of the most basic aspects of the sexual response cycle and intercourse often leads to long-lasting dysfunctions.”
- Barlow, D. H., & Durand, V. M. (2005). Abnormal psychology: An integrative approach (4th ed.). Belmont: Thomson Wadsworth.
Our society teaches us maladaptive beliefs and behavior patterns regarding sex, and consequently, our children grow up to be dysfunctional in their sexual expression and relationships. Being sex-positive means knowing and embracing that sex is natural and an important part of life. When we try to hide sex behind fear and judgment, ignorance and anxiety breed dysfunction, which causes dissatisfaction and even suffering. All of which can be reversed with education. It’s so simple! For me, being sex-positive means I understand the value sex has in my life, in everyone’s life. I believe education regarding sex is important for people of all ages and I discourage reinforcement of damaging preconceptions and stereotypes regarding sex.
Thanks to Violet Blue, the queen of sex-positive news on the internet, for linking to this fabulous resource for sex-positive parents, educators, and teens who wish to be fully educated about sexual health.